Just wanted to wish you all a Happy 4th of July! I hope you all have a great time celebrating with family, friends and loved ones!!!
I was talking to someone the other day about celebrating their upcoming birthday. They responded, “it’s just another day. Anything that I can do on this day, I can do on any day.” But a birthday is not JUST another day. It is ANOTHER BLESSING.
In fact, any day that we are all so fortunate enough to see and breathe life again here on this Earth should be considered another blessing. And we should learn to appreciate and celebrate those blessings. No, I’m not saying that we need to have a big party to celebrate each day as though it is our birthday. However, I am saying that we ought to take time to reflect and give reverence to God, thanking him for life.
I mean, in this last month along, we have heard all of the following incidents:
- Death of Aaron Hernandez
- Death of comedian Charlie Murphy
- The Facebook Live shooting of an elderly man and the subsequent suicide by the killer
- A man tragically falling to his death on Facebook live while running away from the cops
And that doesn’t even include all of the things that occur in our neighborhoods that often don’t make it to mainstream media. In this same past week, I, too, found myself almost in a severe car accident. Fortunately, I was alert enough to swerve from other cars and drive onto the median. I was blessed that I didn’t hit anyone or anything while trying to avoid getting into a wreck.
I was BLESSED.
And so are you. There’s a quote that says, “every day may not be good but there is good in every day”. Now I want you to re-read that quote.
Every day may not be good, but there IS GOoD in every day.”
Each day that you wake up, you ought to find something positive to thank God for. Stop sitting around saying today is just going to be another regular day because there are thousands of people who were not privileged to see this day. Stop taking your blessings for granted and learn to appreciate them.
Today, I am thankful for my life, my health, my loved ones and that God is continuing to grow me in my purpose. What are you thankful for on this blessed day?
Hey Loves and Happy First Day of Spring!
There’s a song that says:
It’s a new season, it’s a new day
A fresh anointing is flowing my way
It’s a season of power and prosperity
It’s a new season coming to me.
I LOVE that song by Israel Houghton. And what better way to walk into the first day of Spring, knowing that God is bringing us into a new season full of new mercies and a fresh anointing.
We all know that not everyone or everything gets to travel into all seasons of life with us. In fact, that’s exactly what Spring Cleaning is all about – getting rid of those things/people that clutter up our lives. Whether it’s old friends who are only bringing negativity into your life, a career that you know it not in line with your purpose, a relationship that you KNOW isn’t good or healthy for you, or just things around your house that you don’t need anymore (like all those clothes and shoes in your closet ladies – speaking to myself here too haha). Whatever it may be, it is important to know that in order for us to make room for the new things and people God will bless us with in this season, we have to spring clean our lives! It is time for new beginnings!!!
Out with the old, in with the new!!!
Be on the lookout for my Spring Cleaning mini-series blog posts to come in April that will teach you a few tips/tricks on how to Spring Clean your mind, body, spirit and of course your house! And as always, I hope you all have a bright and prosperous Spring 2017 full of love, peace and souuulll!!! (Not sure why I felt like adding a Soul Train reference here haha – I’m just in a great mood this new season!)
“I’m 29. Single. Woman of God. Believer in the Christian faith. But the men I meet? Boy, oh boy!”
Haha did you miss me? I actually haven’t been going on dates in awhile so there was no need to journal my dating chronicles. That is…until I got catfished. Yes, me. Catfished!
I decided to look up the definition of catfished online and low and behold, I found the following definition: “lure (someone) into a relationship by means of a fictional online persona”. Yep, I had gotten catfished. So let’s get this story started shall we…
Once upon a time in a land not so far away…
It was the end of busy season – the most ridiculously busiest time of year for an accountant like myself. It usually falls between January and May, typically corresponding with tax season. I was overworked and tired and needed a pick me up. Luckily, one of my homegirls from Chi-town decided she was going to come into town for some fun. I hadn’t seen her in ages. Needless to say, we got all dolled up and hit the town.
We ended up at a lounge. We didn’t want the club vibe but some place where we could dance a little bit and still be able to sit down to rest our aching feet (who said heels were a girls best friend?). It wasn’t soon before I realized I had caught the attention of a nice, older gentleman. He came over and introduced himself and ordered drinks for my friends and I. He and I danced the night away. He was a nice guy – not too old but just right. We went outside to chat and get to know each other better. I told him I was an accountant and he told me he was a principal for an elementary school. Nice! Older, handsome and successful, I thought.
A few days later, he invited me out on a date at a local bar/restaurant. He saw to it that I had drinks and ordered my food (although the food was never delivered to me). He walked in proudly with me on his arm and introduced me to his friends as wifey (BIG RED FLAG lol – my friends all know, I don’t play the wifey thing when I don’t even know you. Needless to say I just grinned and beared it). Mr. Principal continued to work his way around the room, leaving me at a table with his friends. Soon, I got up to go to the restroom. I come back and Mr. Principal was gone. I asked his friends where he was – but no one knew. Fifteen minutes later, he called me and said someone had broken into his school and the police wanted him to get back there immediately. I didn’t understand why he couldn’t just wait for me to come out of the restroom to tell me that or at least offer to walk me to my car and I voiced that. (Wasn’t like I was going to be in the restroom forever!) He claims he just freaked out because nothing had happened like that before and promised to make it up to me. I knew something didn’t feel right about the situation so I put a mental note in my head and went home. (STRIKE 1)
The Principal invited me out again a few weeks later. When I responded, however, he did not respond. A day later, he said he did respond so, me, being who I am, I’m like screenshot it lol. He then preceded to take a screenshot but claimed he couldn’t do it while on the phone. His phone was more high-tech than mine so I knew if I could do it, he could do it too. (STRIKE 2)
Nonetheless, I just let it go. I mean, no harm no foul. No sense in making an issue out of nothing right? A few weeks later, it was time for my phone upgrade. Well with Verizon, when you get a new phone, you get a 10 day period to try out this caller ID feature that comes with the new phone. No way to opt out. So after I got my new phone, I realized that not all of my contacts transferred over. I was too lazy to manually do it so whenever people called/text, I just asked who it was. Finally, one day the Principal called me. Except the name that he had given me wasn’t the name that popped up on the caller ID. So I asked him – “who is ‘John Doe’”. He said he didn’t know who that was and why was I asking him. I explained to him that Verizon had this feature that shows the caller ID of an incoming call. He responded, “oh okay, well John Doe is my father.” Naturally I’m like wait what? You just said you didn’t know who that was. He just repeated – that’s my father. So I asked him again – are you sure? He said yes.
Now given that he had already lied to me about not knowing the name, my Carmen Sandiego detective skills were kicking in full effect! The only thing that I knew about him was a) his first name b) he was a principal and the city his school was in and now c) his dad’s name.
So to Google I went! I typed in “John Doe – ABC City” and would you guess what happened? His father didn’t pop up! Nope! It was him! His picture popped up under the name John Doe AND he wasn’t even a principal! He was a second grade teacher! Done lied this whole time lol.
Needless to say, I didn’t talk to the principal, second grade teacher, John Doe or whoever he was again. To be honest, it didn’t bother me that he wasn’t a principal. I have the utmost respect for everyone working in education in any capacity and I’m never the kind of woman to judge someone for their job. My issue with him were the LIES!!! We were not a couple. We had barely even met. But if you are lying to someone you don’t even know about things that you don’t have to lie about that pretty much sums up how you will interact with them in the future. I’m just saying…
So…looks like another one bit the dust haha. Until next time!
Because someone else needs to hear this too…
2 Corinthians 4:8-9 says, “we are afflicted in every way but not crushed; perplexed but not driven to despair; persecuted but not forsaken; struck down but not destroyed.” I’m meditating on this scripture tonight because life has just been throwing me lots of curve balls. I find myself crying to God, wanting to give up and not understanding the plan he has for me or the journey he has me going through. The “why me” Lord question pops in my head almost daily. And I’m so used to being a positive, strong person that I don’t really allow others to know how I feel.
But you know what God doesn’t need anyone else to relay a message to you. He knows how to do that through his word. If you’ve been feeling down about some of life’s curveballs that have been thrown at you, perhaps you should join me in meditating on this scripture. Remember, God never puts more on you than you can bear. He definitely has a plan for you and his plan says he is not done with you yet. Whatever this is, whatever you’re going through-this won’t break you. Why? Because it ain’t over until God says it’s over! #Goodnight
As I’m trying to expand my blog reach, I’ve recently joined a couple of websites and have started writing for them as a blog contributor. Occasionally, I look through some of the blogs that I’ve written in the past and use them for contribution. This was one of those cases. Except, I think I tweaked it and improved it to be better than my original post (which you can find here) and the message is hopefully a lot more clear. This is not a typical blog post but instead written in a letter format. I want to dedicate it to all the Superwomen out there who have had to push past the pain of every hurt that they ever felt from any man. It is not meant to bash men but to help us, as women, learn to place our hearts in God’s hands and not a man’s hands. You keep pushing my sister and rely on that true strength that comes from within and always know that you can overcome ANYTHING. There’s a hero that lies in you! I hope you enjoy! ~Videllia
Wow. I remember the moment I first met you. You were like that superhero that every girl wants. Without hesitation you swooped in and saved the day. You rescued this damsel in distress and saved me from my pain. You replaced past tears with temporary laughter. You replaced insecurities with confidence. You were my Superman…or so I thought.
Over time, the kryptonite that so ensued you began to leak over into my own life. I could now see you for who you really were: Clark Kent.
You weren’t my Superman; instead, you were just another typical guy – treating me so great in the beginning only to have me fizzle into an afterthought. In fact, I think that I wanted you to be THAT GUY so badly that I overlooked all of the red flags, spiritual road blocks and downright feelings in my gut that were saying “no, this is not the one”. I had placed you at the highest point of my life when the reality was you were a guy that didn’t deserve so much credit for my happiness.
Now that I’ve seen you for your reality, that fantasy that so carefully played in my head no longer exists.
- You didn’t save me from my pain-in fact, you actually added to it. Nonetheless, God was the one that saved me. (Ephesians 2:8)
- You weren’t the source of my laughter or replaced tears. I had finally walked the journey from forgiveness towards healing so there were no more tears. (Matthew 6:14)
- You didn’t make me confident. I just finally woke up and realized my own worth. (Proverbs 3:15)
Wow! So the reality is, it was really ALL GOD and ALL ME that got me to this place that I’m in today. Yet for so long, I had given you all the credit. I had epitomized you to be this great man of power – this great superhero – that deserved all credit for the woman I am today. When, in fact, I’ve discovered that the real superhero is within me.
With God on my side, I’ve pushed past the pain. I pushed past all those tears. I pushed through the healing stages and all of the ups and downs that come with that. I pushed through the insecurities. I pushed through the feelings of a lack of self-worth. I pushed through towards confidence.
Yes…the real superhero has been in me this whole time and it just took me a lot longer to come to that realization. Oh, but now that I know it for myself, your acceptance or approval is no longer needed, wanted or sought after! Nope! I no longer need to feel validated by you. I no longer need to feel worthy enough in your eyes. I no longer need to feel pretty enough for you. The only justification I need in who I am is tied into WHOSE I am – I am a child of God – a daughter of the King. And he told me that I am fearfully and wonderfully made, exactly as I am. That’s all the validation I need!
So… here I stand before you bold and confident in my God, my worth, who I am as a woman and most importantly, bold and confident knowing that you nor any other man will be able to break me again!
I stand as a Superwoman.
To all my other superwoman out there, be reminded of this:
“When you’ve felt all hope is gone, look inside you and be strong. And you’ll finally see the truth. That a hero lies in you.” ~Mariah Carey
Always remember that your worth is not tied into how a man views and treats you. God has already outlined your worth in his scriptures when he compared a virtuous woman as being worth far more than rubies. Rubies! One of the world’s most precious gems. In fact, some research has shown that large rubies can be sold at even higher prices than diamonds! So, your God obviously finds you to be worthy. However, it is up to you to start walking in your true worth. My prayer for you is that wherever you are in life – whether single, married, undecided, kicking it, cuddling, etc. – that you do not place all of the power of your heart and happiness into that person and instead give it all over to God. And if you find yourself struggling to get out of a situation where you know you are not being treated the way you deserve, then I encourage you to rely on that hero – that superwoman – that’s inside of you! Be blessed! ~Videllia