As I’m trying to expand my blog reach, I’ve recently joined a couple of websites and have started writing for them as a blog contributor. Occasionally, I look through some of the blogs that I’ve written in the past and use them for contribution. This was one of those cases. Except, I think I tweaked it and improved it to be better than my original post (which you can find here) and the message is hopefully a lot more clear. This is not a typical blog post but instead written in a letter format. I want to dedicate it to all the Superwomen out there who have had to push past the pain of every hurt that they ever felt from any man. It is not meant to bash men but to help us, as women, learn to place our hearts in God’s hands and not a man’s hands. You keep pushing my sister and rely on that true strength that comes from within and always know that you can overcome ANYTHING. There’s a hero that lies in you! I hope you enjoy! ~Videllia
Wow. I remember the moment I first met you. You were like that superhero that every girl wants. Without hesitation you swooped in and saved the day. You rescued this damsel in distress and saved me from my pain. You replaced past tears with temporary laughter. You replaced insecurities with confidence. You were my Superman…or so I thought.
Over time, the kryptonite that so ensued you began to leak over into my own life. I could now see you for who you really were: Clark Kent.
You weren’t my Superman; instead, you were just another typical guy – treating me so great in the beginning only to have me fizzle into an afterthought. In fact, I think that I wanted you to be THAT GUY so badly that I overlooked all of the red flags, spiritual road blocks and downright feelings in my gut that were saying “no, this is not the one”. I had placed you at the highest point of my life when the reality was you were a guy that didn’t deserve so much credit for my happiness.
Now that I’ve seen you for your reality, that fantasy that so carefully played in my head no longer exists.
- You didn’t save me from my pain-in fact, you actually added to it. Nonetheless, God was the one that saved me. (Ephesians 2:8)
- You weren’t the source of my laughter or replaced tears. I had finally walked the journey from forgiveness towards healing so there were no more tears. (Matthew 6:14)
- You didn’t make me confident. I just finally woke up and realized my own worth. (Proverbs 3:15)
Wow! So the reality is, it was really ALL GOD and ALL ME that got me to this place that I’m in today. Yet for so long, I had given you all the credit. I had epitomized you to be this great man of power – this great superhero – that deserved all credit for the woman I am today. When, in fact, I’ve discovered that the real superhero is within me.
With God on my side, I’ve pushed past the pain. I pushed past all those tears. I pushed through the healing stages and all of the ups and downs that come with that. I pushed through the insecurities. I pushed through the feelings of a lack of self-worth. I pushed through towards confidence.
Yes…the real superhero has been in me this whole time and it just took me a lot longer to come to that realization. Oh, but now that I know it for myself, your acceptance or approval is no longer needed, wanted or sought after! Nope! I no longer need to feel validated by you. I no longer need to feel worthy enough in your eyes. I no longer need to feel pretty enough for you. The only justification I need in who I am is tied into WHOSE I am – I am a child of God – a daughter of the King. And he told me that I am fearfully and wonderfully made, exactly as I am. That’s all the validation I need!
So… here I stand before you bold and confident in my God, my worth, who I am as a woman and most importantly, bold and confident knowing that you nor any other man will be able to break me again!
I stand as a Superwoman.
To all my other superwoman out there, be reminded of this:
“When you’ve felt all hope is gone, look inside you and be strong. And you’ll finally see the truth. That a hero lies in you.” ~Mariah Carey
Always remember that your worth is not tied into how a man views and treats you. God has already outlined your worth in his scriptures when he compared a virtuous woman as being worth far more than rubies. Rubies! One of the world’s most precious gems. In fact, some research has shown that large rubies can be sold at even higher prices than diamonds! So, your God obviously finds you to be worthy. However, it is up to you to start walking in your true worth. My prayer for you is that wherever you are in life – whether single, married, undecided, kicking it, cuddling, etc. – that you do not place all of the power of your heart and happiness into that person and instead give it all over to God. And if you find yourself struggling to get out of a situation where you know you are not being treated the way you deserve, then I encourage you to rely on that hero – that superwoman – that’s inside of you! Be blessed! ~Videllia