Creating a Safe Space for Your Man

Hey loves, in today’s video we are talking about 3 ways, Queens can create a safe space for the King in their life that makes them comfortable opening up and being vulnerable.

Shoutout to all the Kings who responded to my IG story with their thoughts.

One thing I forgot to say in the video with respect to the first point is to also recognize that our men have insecurities too so this is another reason why it’s so important to affirm them with your words instead of belittling them.

I Deserve the King of Wakanda

Hey loves, it’s Videllia. Your favorite relationship and motivational blogger and I’m back with another blog post called “I Deserve the King of Wakanda” and so do you.  You can listen to the podcast below or keep scrolling to read the full post.

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I love the movie Black Panther. I saw it 3 times in theaters, once on an airplane and plan to buy the DVD lol. What I loved outside of the amazing storyline, great acting and eye candy was the way T’Challa treated the women in the movie, specifically Nakia.

For those that don’t know, in the storyline Nakia can be seen pursuing her own dreams of saving people while T’challa pursues her. Not only does he pursue her but he protects her. Not only does he protect her but he wants to provide for her. Not only does he provide for her but you can see how he loves and cherishes her. How he respects and admires her dreams and her vision for the world. Not only does he cherish her but you can see he makes her aware of his intentions. He hints at her being the Queen in Wakanda and to me their love relationship was so cute.

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While it is fictional of course being based on fictional characters it really got me to thinking – I deserve the King of Wakanda. I deserve a T’challa. No not in the sense of I need a man to be able to transform into some amazing super hero and kick butt all across the world but in the sense of everything he stood for.

I deserve a man who pursues me.

I deserve a man who protects me.

I deserve a man who wants to provide for me (as I want to provide for him).

I deserve a man who loves and cherishes me, who respects and admires me and my dreams. Who will support me in my dreams and figure out ways to help me pursue those things just as T’Challa supported Nakia.

I deserve a man who makes his intentions known – who let’s me know that I’m the one he wants and the one he wants to be with.

And sis, I’m here to tell you, that you do too! We deserve the King of Wakanda. We deserve a king. Now we can fight over which one we get, you can take T’Challa and I can take Killmonger (he was a King for a little bit there lol) No but in all seriousness, I’m here to encourage you to start believing that you deserve better than what you’ve been getting from these lames out here. If that man isn’t pursuing you with intention, isn’t protecting your heart, not showing you the love of God or treating you according to your worth, then that man just may not be the King God has designed for you.

You have to learn to be strong enough to wait for God’s best. I believe that there is a man out there who was specifically designed just for you and you need to stay encouraged. Your King is coming! Wakanda Forever.

Alright Queens, I hope that encourages you! And as always, be sure to like, comment, subscribe and share with a friend! Together, let’s empower one another to be Queens.

~Videllia

“When to invest time in someone”

Hey loves!

Have you ever wondered when you should invest time and energy into someone? I know I have. A lot of people wonder this same thing because we often find ourselves feeling like we’ve wasted time on someone who wasn’t worthy of it.

Well, my advice is to have an open conversation with the person you’re dating. Ask him/her what their intentions are and where they see things going. Hear the response but most importantly, make sure you pay attention to their actions! If a person says one thing but shows you something different with their actions, you may not want to invest your time or energy.

Check out my full video response to this question on my Relationship T.E.A. segment by clicking the YouTube link below. 

And if you have any dating questions that you want advice on, feel free to just reply to this email and I’ll post a video response for you too!  ~Videllia

Single Sistah Masterclass + FREE GIVEAWAY!

Ever asked God why are you single?

 

Hey Single Queens!!!

I’m super excited to introduce you all to a new feature coming to my website this month. Each month I will post a Single Sistah Podcast with motivational topics for all of my single ladies!!! To kick off this new feature, I will be hosting a FREE Masterclass for all of my single ladies and will also be giving away some incredible items.

Join me on IG live Monday, April 2nd at 8pm CST where we will talk all about single lady-ish. For 30-40 minutes, we will talk about what it means to be single in 2018 and I’ll share some practical tips with you on how to enjoy the single life. I’ll also give you a preview of some upcoming topics. Register below to receive your reminder email AND to enter for your chance at winning my:

1) My newly designed Single t-shirt for those waiting on God’s best!
2) The “Boundaries in Dating” book by John Townsend (4.5/5 stars!)

You have to register and attend the class to be entered in the drawing. If you can’t attend, come back to my website immediately after to watch the playback. Included in the playback will be instructions for you on how you can still be eligible to win if you didn’t get a chance to attend.

Good luck and share with a friend!

~Videllia