Today I’m Thankful For…

Happy Thanksgiving Loves!!!  I hope that you all are spending this time eating unhealthy amongst loved ones, family and friends! But let’s never forget the true spirit of Thanksgiving which is that we all have something to be thankful for.  So, comment below with one thing that you are thankful for on today.

I’ll start by commenting mine.  Today I am thankful for life, healthy and strength. A year ago I was going through surgery and a year later I am healed and am so blessed to still be alive!


Never Let A Man Steal Your Confidence

Hey loves!  This week I’m sharing a motivational vlog for all of the ladies out there who have allowed their self-confidence and worth to be diminished for the sake of a relationship or situation-ship. Ladies, never, EVER let a man steal your confidence in yourself. You are all beautiful queens and you deserve to be treated like the Queen that you are. Listen to the video for more on this topic.  ~Videllia

Or you can listen to it on Soundcloud here:

What topics would you like to see?

Hey loves! I am working on some new things for the website, including posting more receipes, vlogs and podcasts.  I hope that you’ve been enjoying what you’re getting so far but I cannot wait to share with you all some more things that I have in store.  I also have a few collaborations coming up with some other organizations as well so be sure you stay tuned and are subscribed to this site to stay in the know.

With that said, I wanted to take a quick break from my regularly scheduled blog posts to ask you all what are some things that you would like to see on my site? Are there any topics that you want to see?  Any vlogs that you want me to record?  Or do you just need encouragement in a specific area of your life?  Feel free to include your thoughts in the comments section below or send me an email.  My goal is to do a post, podcast or video for all of the topics that I get so all you have to do is let me know!

Stay tuned for next week – I’ll be going back to my regularly scheduled posting schedule with a new vlog and podcast.



What Turning 30 is NOT

Hey loves! I was supposed to come to you last week with my final Thirty, Flirty and Thriving Post but I had so much fun celebrating my birthday that I didn’t get a chance to edit the post the way I wanted.  Therefore, instead of rushing and giving you all an incomplete product, I decided to take some more time to really get this post the way I wanted. So today I’m ready to share it with yall of you and I hope you enjoy.IMG_1508693366071

I was very stressed in the months leading to my 30th birthday.  Visions and goals that I had dreamt for myself and had not yet accomplished, left me feeling, well, like a failure.

I wanted to write my first published book by 30.

I wanted to own a house by 30.

I wanted to be a millionaire by 30. (Okay, wishful thinking haha but it does happen!)

I wanted to have kids by 30.

I wanted to be married by 30. (Well actually, these last two weren’t a goal of mine lol. I was pretty content living the single life but these two are things that I’ve heard numerous women including my friends confess to me.)

The list goes on…

But when I was sitting there thinking about all of this, I realized that I have done so many other things that I never even dreamt about doing.

I graduated with two degrees –  a Bachelor in Business Administration and a Master’s in Professional Accounting in 5 years (when sometimes it takes people 6+ years).

I started my own blog and website before 30. No, it’s not a book, but I actively write and engage with my followers and am able to provide you all with inspiration. I even wrote a full short series about knowing your worth in February of this year.   Additionally, I’ve written for a few other websites and had a couple of my articles that I wrote in high-school published in our city’s local newspaper.

I started my own podcast channel before 30.

I started my own YouTube channel before 30.

I do not own a house but I am officially debt free – I own my car and all of my $30k+ of student loans are all paid off.  I have 0 debt and an amazing credit score (above 820).

received_10208366826967125.jpegI am unmarried and without children but was fortunate in year 29 to meet an amazing man that I am building a future with – wedding bells? It’s too soon to tell but I’m enjoying the journey every step of the way.

I’ve taken at least one international trip every year – having been to the Bahamas, Canada, Costa Rica and Mexico as well as one new trip every year within the US – having been to New York, Chicago, LA, Vegas, Miami, Disneyworld, Disneyland, Hollywood, Beverly Hills, Atlanta, DC and a whole host of other places – when many people never even leave their hometowns!

Have I accomplished everything that I’ve ever sat out to do by 30? Heck no.  And my guess is if you’re reading this, you haven’t either.

Maybe you’re still trying to figure out your career aspirations. Perhaps you are going back to school to figure out what’s next. Maybe you’re still in debt but have a great  plan in place to get out.

Maybe you wanted to be married by a certain age but God had other plans.  Maybe you wanted to write that book and have it published, but instead, you’ve been spending your time blogging and vlogging – which you’ve discovered to be a new passion of yours.

I just want to encourage everyone to know that turning 30 is a blessing (well turning any year older is a blessing) – it’s a blessing that God has granted you another day, another year here on this earth, to see life and you know what that means?! It means that there is STILL time for you to accomplish everything you set out to do!!!

While it is good to set goals for ourselves, we should not beat ourselves up when we don’t achieve those goals.  The beauty in seeing another day is that you still have another day to accomplish your dreams.  If you’re not where you want to be at 30 or 25, or 40, or even 50, I’m telling you it’s okay!  These “milestones”  that we place on ourselves are NOT the catch-all, end all for our dreams, accomplishments and achievements.  Instead, at 30 (and with each year that you grow), you’ll find yourself more mature, wiser, stronger than ever and you can use this to propel you into reaching new heights of achievement in your life.

Turning 30 is not the end of my dreams.  Therefore, instead of me feeling like a failure at 30, I am choosing to celebrate all of my accomplishments so far and use the year of 30 to push even harder in making more of my dreams come true and I want to encourage all of you to do the same!  Don’t focus on all of the “nots” in your life – you know, those things that you have “not” done. Instead, focus on your accomplishments and achievements and use each day that God gives you to work smarter and hustle harder in making all of your dreams come true!20171021_221056-e1509636915886.jpg


(All pics above were taken from my 30th birthday “Flashback to the 90s Party”.  We had a blast!  If you want me to share a post on how to throw your own 90s party bash, let me know in the comments section.

Unauthorized use of the above pictures are prohibited.)

Get to Know Me: 30 Fun Facts About Lady V

Hey Loves!

I’m continuing on with my “Thirty, Flirty and Thriving” Series!  This week I’m going to share with you all 30 things about me.  I’ve never done a “Get to Know Me” blog so I’m actually excited to be able to share with you all some fun facts about me.

  1. I was named after my great-grandmother.  This is probably why you don’t know any other Videllia’s right now.  Short but funny story:  apparently my mom and her cousin were competing back in the day on who would have a girl first.  The first girl would get to inherit the name Videllia.  This was a big deal because my great-grandmother was a phenomenal woman.  Anywho, I came out the rose garden (hehe) first so I got to inherit the name.  My brother continued the tradition and gave Videllia as the middle name for my niece (she’s so adorable).
  2. I’m not into pets. I’m not afraid of them but I just don’t like them. Except really small ones. I really want a teacup poodle one day. Haha.  And it’s funny because my favorite cartoon shows growing up were Underdog and Scooby-Doo lol.
  3. I am the oldest of 4.  I have two younger brothers (28 and 27) and a younger sister (10).
  4. I had a rough upbringing.  My mother and dad struggled to be there for me growing up.  They were living in the world and I was raised by my grandmother through my 9th grade year when she passed.  I spent a little time in foster care as well but was so glad to get back home with my family.
  5. My first written article was posted in the Fort Worth Star Telegram in 2006!  It was our city’s local newspaper (you know when print media was still hot). I was super excited about this accomplishment and still have the newspaper clipping in my files now.
  6. I graduated at the top of my high school class.  Graduating as valedictorian really opened up a lot of doors for me.  I was able to attend the University of Texas at Austin for four years on a full ride.  Thanks to the state, UT and Coca-Cola, I was awarded with enough scholarship money to fund my education, making me the first in my family to successfully attend and graduate college with my Masters in Professional Accounting.  I eventually obtained my Certified Public Accountant (CPA) license as well.
  7. Grad school gave me about $40K in student loan debt!!! OMG!!! But as of October 15, 2017 (this year!) I can now say that I am officially debt free! I have paid off all of my student loans! Won’t he do it?! Won’t he will?! Outside of my student loans, I have no other debt.  I am currently saving and searching to buy a house.
  8. I was engaged once. (Yep – bet you didn’t know that lol).  I also am the one that called it off.  It was one of the most traumatic experiences of my life.  Eventually I’ll share that with all of you.
  9. I have always desired to be a writer.  From an early age, I used to write short books and illustrate them.  My goal was to publish my first book by 30.  I didn’t quite meet that goal this year BUT I have been working on my book and have a draft version in the works. Hoping to bring this to print in 2018.
  10. In 2017, I authored a fabulous KnowYourWorth series which I plan to turn into an eBook.  You can check it out here.
  11. Even though I love taking selfies, I sometime still struggle with seeing and hearing myself on camera or on video!  People keep telling me I have a great voice for podcasting and Youtubing but I don’t see that lol.  Speaking of which…go subscribe to my YouTube channel (haha).  Just search for:  only1lady_v
  12. Domestic violence is very important to me because of my own encounter with it. I wasn’t physically abused but I did spend time in two controlling and verbally abusive relationships. You can read about one of them here.
  13. Every year since I’ve turned 25 I believe, I have taken a trip out of the country.  My goal is to go to at least one new country every year.  So far, I’ve been to the Bahamas, Mexico, Canada and Costa Rica.  Next year, my plan is to go to Spain.
  14. I’ve worn glasses since 7th grade and only when I turned 28 did I start wearing contacts. Posted a picture without my glasses and got so much attention I started feeling myself and thus birthed the glass-less selfies you see now lol.
  15. My style has evolved a lot over the years.  You may not believe this but in college, going out to me was wearing a tank top, some shorts and air force ones lol.  I thank God for my friends Ashley and Joanna who made me put on heels one day.  That’s all these long legs needed!
  16. I sang in choir all throughout high school and college and was able to sing backup with our choir groups to some amazing gospel artists.  These included – Kirk Franklin, JJ Hairston, Twinkie Clark, Marvin Saap and more.  But I’m no saanngger – I just do well at backup and harmonizing so don’t ask me to sing for you lol.
  17. My favorite thing to do at church is praise dance. I also love to sit in the front of the church.  It limits distractions and makes me think I’m closer to Jesus.
  18. I have no kids.  Yep. None. And I’m not sad about it lol.  Kids will come in due time and I’m in no rush.  Fortunately, I have a whole host of nieces/nephews/and little cousins that take up all of my money.
  19. I was in a car accident right after I graduated college. Totaled my car. I could’ve lost my life BUT GOD!!!  I still have a scar on my face from the accident and I wear it proudly as a reminder of God saving me.
  20. I am EXTREMELY clumsy. In fact, one time I sprain my knee (like yeah who sprains their knee right?). I had to go to the doctor because it hurt so bad. When they asked me how I did it, I couldn’t give them a straightforward answer because I had hit my knee on so many things and ran into so many things, I couldn’t remember exactly what I did to cause the sprain.
  21. I had surgery almost a year ago.  It was my first surgery.  Fortunately everything went smoothly.  My next surgery needs to be my wisdom teeth (according to my dentist) but I aint tryna hear it.
  22. I started my blog in Feb 2014 after I got after the abusive relationship I mentioned before.  However, I didn’t really become active on it until December 2016.
  23. I could probably eat Mexican food all day!  I love some good queso and enchiladas.  I also love soul food – especially meatloaf. Yum!!!
  24. I have a burnt orange Dodge Nitro – my first car after college – and I call her the She-Rex because the left and right mirrors stick out like tiny T-rex arms (haha).
  25. My favorite colors are purple and orange and my favorite print is leopard. Idk why I just love those colors.
  26. My favorite TV shows of all time – other than the cartoons I listed above are A Different World, I Love Lucy and The Game (when Tia Mowry and Pooch Hall were on there).
  27. My favorite movies are Dirty Dancing and Pretty Woman and I also really love Pitch perfect.
  28. I actually really love watching reality tv shows.  Like it is my guilty pleasure. I haven’t added any new shows because I know God isn’t wanting me to watch it but it’s hard to let go of my other ones.
  29. For my 30th birthday, I am celebrating it by having a Back to the 90s party! I’m super excited and I can’t wait to share that with you all.
  30. Every year for my birthday, in lieu of birthday gifts, I ask my guests to bring gifts to donate to a local charity in my city.  In year’s past, I’ve donated flowers to a breast cancer center for one of it’s patients, non-perishable items and a monetary donation to a local food pantry and clothes, TV’s and living room furniture to a not-for-profit that my friend started.  This year was no different.  This year, my friends and I are donating household items to Family Place – a local domestic violence shelter in Dallas.  This is just one of the ways that I give back through the year because I believe that every year God gives you life, you ought to be a blessing to others.

So that’s it!!  30 things all about me.  I have one more blog in my Thirty, Flirty and Thriving series and I can’t wait to share it with you all next week.  Until then, stay blessed!


30 Things I Wish I Knew in My 20s – Part 2

As noted last week, I’m sharing the “30 Things I Wish I Knew In My 20s”.  Check out last week’s post for Part 1. Otherwise, click the video below to watch Part 2 or you can click this Soundcloud link to listen to the audio only.





Okay well that’s it. Those are the 30 Things I Wish I Knew in my 20s.  Would love to hear some of the things that you wish you knew when you were younger? Feel free to comment on whatever platform you’re listening to this on, whether it’s my website, on SoundCloud or on Youtube.  And if you’re watching this video, let me know what you think. I’m contemplating whether or not I should get into Vlogging so I’m kind of testing the waters right now.


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