Be Your Own Kind of Beautiful

I was laying in bed one morning and as is common with my mind, this topic popped up in my head.  As a society, we struggle with learning to accept ourselves.  We are too busy trying to make ourselves look like the Kim K’s, Beyonce’s, J-Lo’s and other celebrities in the world. We want:

  • to be thin like the Victoria Secret models,
  • to have flawless pictures like the retouched images of people in magazines
  • have hips and a derrière like Nicki Minaj,
  • have hair down our backs like we see all the ladies have in media, or perhaps have big curly hair like all of our favorites naturlistas on YouTube
  • and have thick full lips like me (I say me because I was born with them haha but  I know many people didn’t start desiring thick lips until Angelina Jolie or Kylie Jenner made it a “trend” even though there are many of us – including myself – who were born with them but that’s a topic for a different day lol).

We get so caught up in trying to be like everyone else that we don’t realize that being ourselves is in fact good enough.  Let me say this to you, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being authentically you.  So why are you trying so hard to be a prototype – you know a model of something or someone else?  Now let me clarify. It’s okay to aspire these things. It’s okay to wear makeup, rock you some weave, work out to lose weight or squats to lift your derrière.  The issue is when you take off all of those things and you don’t love the person that you see in the mirror.

It is imperative that we learn to love ourselves and celebrate those things that make us unique.  I was attending a leadership series awhile ago at my job where the speaker was Fred Perpall.  At 38 years old, Mr. Perpall is the CEO of The Beck Group, one of the nation’s largest design build companies.  During this speech, Mr. Perpall said, “don’t let your uniqueness be something that you see as a negative”.  Instead, we are to leverage our uniqueness and use it to propel us into greater heights.

So whether you are black or white, have full or thin lips, have long or short hair, have a gap between your teeth or not, have freckles or acne or a mole, have thick or fine hair, have stretch marks or cellulite, have muscles or not….just be authentically you!  God didn’t create any two people on this Earth to be the same.  Nope, not even identical twins! Because while twins, triplets and God-bless-you-if-you’ve-had-more-than-that-at one-time, share the same genetic makeup, they are still not 100% the same!  God didn’t feel there needed to be a bunch of prototypes walking around here. Instead, he thought that you – just as you are – are more than enough.

My hope is that you remember that very thing. It is okay to be you.  In fact, celebrate who you are because there is no one else who can see or paint the world as you do.  God created you to be a masterpiece – skillfully and wonderfully made – and we need more masterpieces in this world instead of carbon copies! It is up to you to accept it, love yourself flaws and all and learn to just be your own kind of beautiful!

XO,

~Videllia

My Last Beauty Haul

Hey loves!
I wanted to do something a little different and share with you all my latest beauty haul! I love fashion and beauty products and am slowly trying to expand my blog to include these items.  So if you want to see a few things that are staples in my vanity, read more below.
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1) Black Opium Perfume by YSL
This is by far my ABSOLUTE FAVORITE perfume on the market right now.  It is a littleBlack-Opium-Yves-Saint-Laurent
pricey (currently selling for $118 for the 3oz at Ulta and Sephora) but if you are a rewards member at either store, you can usually get it during one of their sales.  I got mine for 20% off the original price and I’m so in love with it.  I typically wear Fancy by Jessica Simpson (another favorite of mine and SUPER affordable – you can usually find it at your local Ross or TJ Maxx for $25 or less!) but when I came across this one, it surpassed Fancy as my #1 perfume.  And my boyfriend absolutely loves it. J
2) Beauty Concepts Blending Sponge
I know people swear by the beauty blenders (original cost $20) but for those of you who are looking for something that is still good quality but at a much more affordable price, check out this blending sponge.  I found it for $4 at my local TJ MAXX and I think it works just as well.
 
3) Too Faced Liquid Lipstick
I LOOOVEEE this lipstick.  I don’t know why but I’ve been getting more into lipstains
versus your traditional lipsticks. I find that they are much more longer lasting and don’t smudge or wear off as much as a regular lipstick.  And Too Faced is definitely one of the brands leading the way in the lipstain department.  This usually retails at Sephora/Ulta for about $24 but you can catch it during a sell for up to 20% off depending on if you have status with Ulta or Sephora.
  
4) NYX Hydrating Primer
This is something new for me. I typically like the Laura Mercier primer but that can get a little pricey.  Ulta was having a sale on all NYX products so I figured hey why not! And so far, so good! This primer is not only hydrating but it also doesn’t cause my makeup to slide off.  I have pretty much normal skin where I sometimes get a little oily in the Tzone area and this primer works for me.  If you’re super oily this probably wouldn’t be the best primer for you as it may cause your makeup to run off but if you have dry to normal skin you definitely want to try this! And guess what? It retails for about $13! Such a steal!
 
5) NYX Skinny Mascara
One of my favorite YouTubers @thechicnatural used this one time in her tutorial and I’veimg_0871 been wanting it since then. I don’t use this on an everyday basis but moreso when I’m stepping out and want to give my eyes that extra pop!!!  It’s also super affordable, retailing for under $10.
 
6) NYX Blotting Paper
I live in Texas.  One day it is cold. The next it’s hot. One day it’s humid. The next it’s not. (Haha – I just felt like rhyming for a second lol).  Anywho, blotting paper is my best friend!  It helps to remove excess makeup while keeping your overall look flawless.  And this was super affordable too, retailing for about $4.
 
7) IT Superhero Mascara
This is one of my favorite mascara’s! (My other is the Makeup Forever Smoky
Extravagant Mascara).  Both retail for about $24.  I love the way this elongates my lashes!!!  Perfect for a normal workday or when I want to step out and don’t feel like putting on fake lashes.
 
8) Real Techniques Brush Set
Now I’m a huge fan of the Real Techniques brushes so when I saw this, I had to get it.  I’m not the biggest fan of the overall design of this particular brush set but I found the entire thing at TJ Maxx for only $10.  Given that most of the RT Brushes sell for more than $10 individually, I couldn’t leave the store without it!  Perfect for my everyday routine.
 
9) Bella Beauty Makeup Brush Cleansing Pad
I have been wanting to buy a makeup cleansing brush set for a while now but haven’t really wanted to pay the money for a good one yet.  I stumbled across these in TJ Maxx the other day and was like why not give it a try.  It was only $10!  So far I like it.  I definitely will still buy a quality brush cleanser in the future but this will hold me over until then.  The individual cleansers have a silicone base feel and does get in between the bristles of my makeup brushes. It doesn’t get them as clean as I would like without me having to put in a little extra effort but it’s doing the trick for now.
 
So that’s it lovelies.  Let me know what you think about the products above or any other products you’d recommend.  Also, let me know what other fashion and beauty posts you’d like to see from me in the future.
 
~Videllia

My First Vlog – “Self-Worth”

Hey loves!!!

Videllia, here, and I am super excited to share with you all one of my most recent projects. My first ever VLog interview by Ms. Victoria Edmond -Blogger and Creator of Burden Free Beauty Products.

On Saturday, April 8, 2017, I was afforded this wonderful opportunity to be interviewed by Ms. Edmond.  During our interview, we discussed my views on self-worth and beauty!  This was my first VLOG interview EVER and it definitely took me out of my comfort zone but was such an amazing experience.  For a few seconds, I felt like a Hollywood superstar! Haha.  And today, I am able to share this experience with all of you! It’s short, sweet and to the point and we hope that you all can be inspired to recognize your beauty and be confident in your self-worth.

Shout-out to Victoria for the amazing opportunity, her sister for the wonderful video editing and production skills and my amazing boyfriend for his support in helping me practice and get ready for that day!  Check out the full interview above and remember to like, comment and subscribe to my site or following me on social media @only1lady_v!

To find out more about Victoria and all of her Burden Free blogs, vlogs and products, head over to her website at: www.burdenfreebeauties.com.

Thanks for your support!

~Videllia

Loving the Skin You’re In

“God has a way of reminding us that what we think is an ugly imperfection about ourselves, he intended to be beautiful.” ~Videllia Davis (that’s me lol)

Have you ever seen the movie Shrek? It’s marketed towards a child audience (though I don’t know why lol) but really, all of the subtle innuendos in there are only things that an adult would understand. I know because now that I watch the movie at 28, I see it so differently than I did when it first came out 14 years ago.shrek

So I was watching the movie a while ago and there’s a part in the movie where the other
princesses tell Fiona that she may start to let herself go and the gingerbread man chimes in and screams, stretch marks! It cracks me up everytime.  Except this time, it made me think differently.

Too often do we look at ourselves in the mirror and find something that we dislike about ourselves. For some, it may be stretch marks. For others, it may be the size of your nose or the lack of fullness in your lips. For others, it may be the lack of a derrière (that’s a donk for those that don’t know lol) or big boobs. Still, for others, it may be the length and texture of your hair, the melanin (or lack thereof) in your skin, the blemishes on your face, and so forth.

The list goes on. For me, I struggled growing up accepting the size of my lips. I was a little-skinny Olive Oil of a kid with humongous lips (if you haven’t been able to tell already from the pics of my 2site lol I’m including a silly pic here just so that you can see – they are HUGE!). That insecurity caused me to shy away from wanting to take pictures. I felt I needed to hide myself because I was that big-eyed, bubble lip child that so often got picked on (kids are so cruel at times!). However, when I entered high school and ultimately college, I learned to not place so much power in my insecurity. My college roommate’s mom always told me that she wished she had such full lips.  Further, my lips became one of my most attractive qualities to a man (now granted some of them were only attracted to them because of their own inappropriate sexual thoughts but still lol – God has a way of reminding us that what we think is an ugly imperfection about ourselves, he intended to be beautiful – whoa! I just shouted – thank you Jesus for that revelation) Fact of the matter is, I did (and do) naturally have big full lips. So I could either shy away from it or straight own it! I’ve chosen the latter.

And I’ve chosen to do that in other areas of my body too. I went natural 2 years ago and yes I will be the first to say that this natural texture can be rough at times (geesh!),  but I walk around still feeling flyy because it is still apart of me.

Even more I used to be shy about wearing bikinis. I have a few tiny stretch marks on my thighs (yep just put all my business out there lol). Although they are tiny and often unnoticeable, I knew they were there. But then I woke up one day and realized that I couldn’t change them! So I could continue to shy away from showing them or just live my life and not care…again I chose the latter. (And for any lady out there struggling with accepting this part of her body let me assure you that a man is not bothered by a stretch mark, hunty let me tell you! 😉😘)

I know I’m writing this to you and making it sound like it’s such a simple thing to do – you know accepting yourself? However, I will be the first to admit that accepting what you think is a flaw about yourself is not always easy but  you CAN do it.

Whenever I struggle with my own insecurities, I read these two verses over and over again:

“I praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made, your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” ~Psalm 139:14
“My darling, everything about you is perfect and even your flaws are beautiful to me” ~Song of Solomon 4:7

I just kept saying it until I actually believed it. I even wrote the scriptures down on a piece of paper and posted them in my room where I could wake up and see them everyday.

Then one day I didn’t have to read them. why? Because I was finally living them. I was finally living like a woman who knew her worth in Jesus surpassed any flaws or insecurities she thought she had.

What areas of insecurity are you struggling with today? Remind yourself of WHOSE you are and encourage yourself out of your insecurity and into self-confidence!!!

I’m praying for you my sister…

-V.Davis

God’s Amazing Love

“I think God will sometimes allow random people to say and do things to you that are exactly what you need just to show you that he loves you and he hears your prayers.  My heart smiles at God’s awesome randomness in my life.” –V.Davis

20150912_130947I wrote that quote on my Facebook page two nights ago as I took a trip back down memory lane.  I’m sharing it with the world now to give someone out there hope that God hears you.  He knows your every need.  Maybe you need a comforter during your time of bereavement. Maybe you need an encourager to motivate you to your next platform in life. Maybe you just need someone to stand there and wipe the tears from your eyes.  Maybe you want someone to hold you and take away the stress of life’s ups and downs.  Maybe you need someone to cheer you on from the sideline, saying, “yes you can do it”.

Whatever it is that you need, HE already knows.  And sometimes he will give you those things.  It won’t always come in the form or shape that you would expect but when it does come, you will know that it’s GOD.

I had been praying over the past few weeks. I had been praying that GOD helps heal my heart of brokenness and pain and in its place restore my forgiveness of people, my faith in HIM and my confidence in my worth. As with most of us, I never fully ever understand the “why me, Lord”; instead, I’ve just learned to accept the “well, why not me Lord”?  I mean, who am I that I shouldn’t experience any suffering in this world?

And then BAM. It happened. Just as the sun peaks up over the horizon before its dancing rays illuminate our dark and despair-driven land, my world too got a little brighter.  It caught me completely off guard.  Through another, God reminded me that my heart can be full of laughter and smiles and warmth.  That I do not and no longer have to live in brokenness and unforgiveness.

HE reminded me that my Faith in HIM IS fully restored. All I have to do is believe. And boy, when I believed, I saw a prayer be answered almost immediately.

Through several, he showed me that my worth is seen among people.  And it’s valued. And it’s respected.  That “God took an extra minute to create me” to show me that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. That I am HIS masterpiece.

We often wonder what does the voice of God sound like. Well I heard from him.  He didn’t sound like something scary or booming like thunder (sidenote – why did people tell us that thunder was God’s voice as a child? Was I the only person that grew up like that? Our parents were just trying to get us to shut up lol… Anyway, I digress…).  He sounded just like you and me.  Partly because he was speaking to me through the mouthpiece of someone else.  I thank God for the willing vessel(s) in my life that have allowed God to use them to remind me of the things that I sometimes forget but that my soul longs to hear.

And in return, I too, want to be a vessel to tell you that you ARE fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalms 139:14a). You ARE God’s MASTERPIECE (Ephesians 2:10).  You ARE beautiful. You ARE handsome.  You CAN do it.  You WILL make it. You ARE great.  You WILL love again.  This pain will NOT last always.  Joy WILL come in the morning. You ARE successful.  You ARE forgiven. Your prayers ARE heard.  But most of all, I want to tell you that YOU ARE LOVED BY GOD.

And being reminded of all of that, now I can’t stop smiling.  What an amazing feeling it is to know that you are loved by God so much that he will use willing vessels/people to remind you of just how great you are!  I hope that in this short blog, I’ve been able to remind YOU of how great you are as well and that you too can walk with a smiling spirit.

Hugs, kisses and many blessings,

-V.Davis

There is NO Shade in Beauty

Courtesy of BuzzFeed.com (Lucy Nicholson / Reuters)
Courtesy of BuzzFeed.com (Lucy Nicholson / Reuters)

The world is talking Lupita.  In case you don’t know why, here’s an excerpt from a recent speech that she gave:

“My mother used to say to me, ‘You can’t eat beauty, it doesn’t feed you.’ And these words played and bothered me, I didn’t really understand them until finally I realised that beauty was not a thing that I could acquire or consume. It was something that I just had to be. And what my mother meant by saying that you can’t eat beauty is that you can’t rely on beauty to sustain you.

What actually sustains us, what is fundamentally beautiful is compassion for yourself and those around you. That kind of beauty enflames the heart and enchants the soul. It is what got Patsey in so much trouble with her master. But it is also what has kept her story alive to this day. We remember the beauty of her spirit even though the beauty of her body has faded away.

And so I hope that my presence on your screens and in magazines may lead you, young girl, on a similar journey. That you will feel the validation for your beauty, but also get to the deeper business of feeling beautiful inside. There is no shade in that beauty.”  –Lupita Nyongo  Continue reading “There is NO Shade in Beauty”