I wrote this post several months ago but was very hesitant about posting it. It is very different from what I usually post but I think this needs to be said. So here goes…
Tramp. Slut. Bopper. Breezy. Skank. Witch. Trick. Easy-Access. Dirty. Prostitute. One Night Stand. Shawty. Emotional. Sensitive. Fake. Two-Faced. Drama Queen. Materialistic. Broad. Baby Mama. Thirsty. Bitter. Stuck-up. Main Chick. Side Chick (why can’t it just be the only chick?). Ugly. Fat. Wh-re. B*tch.
Hmm…
What if it were…
Beautiful. Queen. Woman of God. Proverbs 31 Woman. Magnificent. Gorgeous. Intellectual. Smart. Ambitious. Goals-Driven. Sexy. Princess. Pure. Pretty. Attractive. Intelligent………..WIFEY…..(yeah, you ladies gone ahead and think about that one-a side chick doesn’t become a wife-I’m just saying-but you’ll have to wait for my next blog about that side chick mentality…)
Okay, how about this?
Fool. Good for Nothing. Baby Daddy. Broke. Lame. Ain’t Good for Sh*t. Punk. Lazy. Stupid. Never Amount to Anything. Dog. Liar. Cheater. Pimp. Crackhead. Drug Dealer. Ugly. Fat. Boring.
What if it were…
Handsome. Smart. Real Man. Genuine. Man of God. Man after God’s own heart. Good person. Nice. Kind. Smooth. A King. Sexy. Fine. Intelligent. Good-looking. Powerful. Friend. Father (not baby daddy).
You see all of the above words are negative connotations that I have heard throughout my lifetime that are associated with both men and women. I couldn’t even think of or list all the words that I’ve ever heard someone say about a woman or a man but the fact is these are things we say TO each other AND about each other. I’m sure we are all guilty of saying something like this to our friends about someone else (even if it’s meant as a joke). I wonder how different the world would be if we started associating some of these negative images with more positive words, more words of affirmations…how different would our culture be?
Maybe that would mean fewer men behind bars. Or perhaps fewer women selling their bodies on the streets. Or even fewer kids getting bullied at school.
Or what about fewer men killing their spouses. Or fewer women being comfortable being a side chick. Or even fewer kids dropping out of school.
Hmm…maybe it would mean fewer men on drugs. Or fewer women settling for abusive relationships. Or fewer kids running away from home.
Still…what if it meant fewer hate crimes? Fewer deaths? What it meant life, love, liberty, joy, and happiness among our nation?
Wow. What difference a positive word could make huh?
The bible says “life and death lies in the power of our tongue” (Proverbs 18:21). Dang. By that measure, I (and probably you) should have already been convicted of murder. GUILTY is what the judge would say. Guilty of murder. Yes, murder! I mean, we basically murder each other every day just through the words we say…
How different would the world be if we learned to lift each other up through our words, instead of tear each other down?
I wonder…
-V.Davis
OnlyLadyV 