Q3’2018 Goals Update

Walking into this last quarter of the year like: Yaaasssss!!!

Hey Loves, it’s your girl Videllia and it’s time for your quarterly goals check in!!! As you all know, every quarter, I take some time to pause and reflect on the goals that I have set for the year. I celebrate the ones I’ve accomplished, add any new ones, remove ones that are no longer relevant to me and evaluate where my progress is on my remaining goals. I show you all a running list from my new year’s post so that you can see these goals being crossed off!

As a reminder, here was my theme for this year:

Dream ♥ Hustle ♥ Achieve

So let’s get to it…

Blog Goals

My blog goals include:

  • New Website  COMPLETE
    • As you all can see, I have redesigned my website to make it more user friendly.  Take some time to explore some of its categories like For Every Queen, Lady V speaks and more to find what you like. I’m certain my site has something for every Queen out there.
  • New Products – COMPLETE
    • One of my goals last year was to design some statement tee’s for you all and I can finally say that is complete!  I recently launched the first of my new statement tee’s for this year specifically for all of my goal digger Queens.  Grab yours by purchasing here. I plan to release at least 2 more shirts this year so I’m sure you’ll find something for the Queen in you!
    • GOAL UPDATE Q2:  I have created and designed TWO shirts already this year so I made really good progress on this goal! I don’t know that I will create another t-shirt this year but will focus on selling the two that I’ve already created and work on creating some other freebies for my followers.
  • More Videos/Vlogs! – IN PROGRESS
    • The feedback that I received on my videos was very positive in 2017 (even though I had NO intention on ever starting a YouTube channel haha).  But I have been enjoying this journey and realized I love connecting with you all through video so look forward to seeing more frequent videos from me this year. If you haven’t already, be sure to sign up to follow me on YouTube. My goal is to post at least 3 new videos every month (hopefully more!)
    • GOAL UPDATE Q3: I have fallen off of posting new videos to my YouTube channel but have posted videos on my Instagram page for my new Relationship T.E.A. segment. People keep asking me for more videos and podcasts so I’m hoping to increase this over the next half of the year with my new Relationship T.E.A segment where I offer free dating advice on the questions YOU ask. Additionally, I’m hoping to create more podcasts for my Single Queens. You can head over to my Instagram page to see all of the funny Relationship T.E.A. videos and podcasts that I’ve posted so far. 
  • More Giveaways! – COMPLETE
    • Who doesn’t like receiving free stuff?!!  I plan to host at least 3-4 giveaways this year and they will be bigger and better than last year so stay tuned!  Some giveaways may only be announced on Instagram while some only announced on YouTube so be sure you’re signed up to follow all of my platforms. My first giveaway was posted earlier this month on Instagram.
    • GOAL UPDATEQ2: As of the date of this post, I’ve hosted three giveaways – one in January, one in February and one in April. I am also doing another giveaway on my Instagram RIGHT NOW through this Saturday for a chance to win a Goal Digger Gang t-shirt. If you aren’t following me on Instagram you are missing out on a LOT of great giveaways! Head on over to enter now. So technically, I’ve already achieved this goal (so I’m gonna cross it off! But I more than likely will still host at least one more giveaway before the year is up!)
    • GOAL UPDATE Q3 – I’ll be hosting another giveaway next month for my birthday so make sure you stay tuned!
  • More Collaborations – IN PROGRESS
    • I love collaborating with other bloggers/vloggers.  I’m hoping to do more collaborations this year and would love to do another collab with a vlogger.  I would like to do at least 3 collaborations this year so if interested, hit me up!
    • GOAL UPDATEQ2: I’ve done two collaborations so far – one with the beautifully talented Keyva Jo Fontnette and one with Nelly’s Couch on offering dating advice so I only have 1 more to do to reach my target for the year. To see my fashion collaboration with Keyva, click here.
    • GOAL UPDATE Q3 – I’m currently partnering with someone right now working on my final collaboration for this year! Be looking out for it coming in this last quarter.
  • More Series – COMPLETE
    • Last year I introduced you all to my #KnowYourWorth series in February. I hope to do at least 2 more mini-series this year with you all. My next series is specifically for my single Queens and will be posted next month!
    • GOAL UPDATE Q3: I hosted my single series in February. It was a week long devotional study for my single Queens. I don’t know that I’ll be hosting another series as I have so many segments already on my page. I am however, working on a 5-10 minute downloadable course about love that I plan to offer either in Q4 or Q1 of next year!
  • SINGLE SISTAH SATURDAYS – COMPLETE
    • As a result of my series in February, I’ve decided to do a monthly podcast for single Queens. In the podcast we will be talking all about single-lady ish! Please send me what topics you’d like to hear! I’m kicking it off on Monday, April 2nd with a giveaway! Click here to learn more.
    • GOAL UPDATE: I moved this from Saturdays to the last Monday of every month and just posted my first podcast this week! You can find that podcast here. Additionally, this allowed me to narrow down my target audience and you all love to hear about relationships! So on my Instagram and Facebook pages – I post weekly relationship advice, relationship videos, date night ideas for the single ladies and those in relationships, dating and relationship questions AND the Single Sistah podcast. So if you need to be inspired in the love department be sure to check out my Instagram and Facebook pages!
  • Updated Blog Schedule and Content COMPLETE
    • To ensure that I am posting consistent content for you all on a weekly basis, I have created a blog posting schedule to include:  one minute motivational videos, business/blog/entrepreneur tips, more travel, fashion and beauty blogs, career and finance tips, #WCW Queen Spotlight features and more!
  • Growth and visibility goals for Instagram and YouTube
    • While it’s not all about the numbers, I do have goals to expand my reach on both Instagram and YouTube as I have selected these as my two primary social media platforms for 2018.  Wish me luck!
    • GOAL UPDATE: I have grown my IG account by 450 followers since January 1, 2018!!! My YouTube channel has grown to over 80 followers. Baby steps but I’m loving the progress so far!
  • Miscellaneous
    • Finalize my KnowYourWorth book.  Finalize my Singles book by December 2018. (Decided to change which book I would focus on this year) – IN PROGRESS
    • Create blog business cards. – COMPLETE IN Q3

Personal

Some of my personal goals include:

  • Spiritual
    • This year, I want to spending more time with God not only in scripture but in prayer as well.  I’m trying to incorporate daily prayer and devotional time with God as well and I’m tracking my progress.
    • GOAL UPDATE: I have been up and down on my spiritual goal. One thing I know I need to do is incorporate more prayer time and not just devotional time. I’m working on it. 🙂
  • Healthy-ish Lifestyle (don’t judge! haha)
    • I want to work out at least 3-4 times/week and incorporate more vegetarian meals as well, eating at least one vegeterian meal a week!
    • I need to eat more green veggies. Lol. I actually love green veggies, I just don’t cook them as much as I should.  I also will be sharing more healthy-ish recipes with you all on my vlog this year so stay tuned.
    • GOAL UPDATE: I had to take a break for 2 months due to some health issues but I’ve been getting back into working out regularly again. I still need to work on incorporating at least one vegetarian meal to my weekly routine and I have some healthy vlogs coming soon.
  • Travel 
    • I have declared my 30th year to be my year of travel. So far I’ve been have to San Francisco and Puerto Rico and New Orleans. Currently I’m in London and Paris! Don’t worry, I’m taking you all with me and will be blogging/vlogging about those trips as well so head over to my IG page to see all of the travel adventures.
  • Miscellaneous
    • Read more books as well as books/resources to grow my business. – IN PROGRESS
    • Take a fun class. (This year I plan to take a weekly hip hop class. I’ve already started posting some of the videos on my Instagram so head on over to check them out).COMPLETE
    • Buy a house by the end of the year! (Yaasss, your girl got real goals!) – IN PROGRESS

What are some of your goals for this year?  What else would you like to see me do on my site this year?  Let’s be sure to pray for one another and keep each other lifted throughout this year!  ~Videllia

Q2’2018 Goals Update

Walking into this next half of the year like: Yaaasssss!!!

Hey Loves, it’s your girl Videllia and it’s time for your quarterly goals check in!!! As you all know, every quarter, I take some time to pause and reflect on the goals that I have set for the year. I celebrate the ones I’ve accomplished, add any new ones, remove ones that are no longer relevant to me and evaluate where my progress is on my remaining goals. I show you all a running list from my new year’s post and my Q1 post so that you can see these goals being crossed off!

As a reminder, here was my theme for this year:

Dream ♥ Hustle ♥ Achieve

So let’s get to it…

Blog Goals

My blog goals include:

  • New Website  COMPLETE
    • As you all can see, I have redesigned my website to make it more user friendly.  Take some time to explore some of its categories like For Every Queen, Lady V speaks and more to find what you like. I’m certain my site has something for every Queen out there.
  • New Products – COMPLETE
    • One of my goals last year was to design some statement tee’s for you all and I can finally say that is complete!  I recently launched the first of my new statement tee’s for this year specifically for all of my goal digger Queens.  Grab yours by purchasing here. I plan to release at least 2 more shirts this year so I’m sure you’ll find something for the Queen in you!
    • GOAL UPDATE:  I have created and designed TWO shirts already this year so I made really good progress on this goal! I don’t know that I will create another t-shirt this year but will focus on selling the two that I’ve already created and work on creating some other freebies for my followers.
  • More Videos/Vlogs!
    • The feedback that I received on my videos was very positive in 2017 (even though I had NO intention on ever starting a YouTube channel haha).  But I have been enjoying this journey and realized I love connecting with you all through video so look forward to seeing more frequent videos from me this year. If you haven’t already, be sure to sign up to follow me on YouTube. My goal is to post at least 3 new videos every month (hopefully more!)
    • GOAL UPDATE: I have fallen off of posting new videos to my YouTube channel but have posted videos on my Instagram page for my new Relationship T.E.A. segment. People keep asking me for more videos and podcasts so I’m hoping to increase this over the next half of the year with my new Relationship T.E.A segment where I offer free dating advice on the questions YOU ask. Additionally, I’m hoping to create more podcasts for my Single Queens. You can head over to my Instagram page to see all of the funny Relationship T.E.A. videos and podcasts that I’ve posted so far. 
  • More Giveaways! – COMPLETE
    • Who doesn’t like receiving free stuff?!!  I plan to host at least 3-4 giveaways this year and they will be bigger and better than last year so stay tuned!  Some giveaways may only be announced on Instagram while some only announced on YouTube so be sure you’re signed up to follow all of my platforms. My first giveaway was posted earlier this month on Instagram.
    • GOAL UPDATE: As of the date of this post, I’ve hosted three giveaways – one in January, one in February and one in April. I am also doing another giveaway on my Instagram RIGHT NOW through this Saturday for a chance to win a Goal Digger Gang t-shirt. If you aren’t following me on Instagram you are missing out on a LOT of great giveaways! Head on over to enter now. So technically, I’ve already achieved this goal (so I’m gonna cross it off! But I more than likely will still host at least one more giveaway before the year is up!)
  • More Collaborations
    • I love collaborating with other bloggers/vloggers.  I’m hoping to do more collaborations this year and would love to do another collab with a vlogger.  I would like to do at least 3 collaborations this year so if interested, hit me up!
    • GOAL UPDATE: I’ve done two collaborations so far – one with the beautifully talented Keyva Jo Fontnette and one with Nelly’s Couch on offering dating advice so I only have 1 more to do to reach my target for the year. To see my fashion collaboration with Keyva, click here.
  • More Series
    • Last year I introduced you all to my #KnowYourWorth series in February. I hope to do at least 2 more mini-series this year with you all. My next series is specifically for my single Queens and will be posted next month!
    • GOAL UPDATE: I hosted my single series in February. It was a week long devotional study for my single Queens. Only one more series to host this year to be able to cross off this goal.
  • SINGLE SISTAH SATURDAYS
    • As a result of my series in February, I’ve decided to do a monthly podcast for single Queens. In the podcast we will be talking all about single-lady ish! Please send me what topics you’d like to hear! I’m kicking it off on Monday, April 2nd with a giveaway! Click here to learn more.
    • GOAL UPDATE: I moved this from Saturdays to the last Monday of every month and just posted my first podcast this week! You can find that podcast here. Additionally, this allowed me to narrow down my target audience and you all love to hear about relationships! So on my Instagram and Facebook pages – I post weekly relationship advice, relationship videos, date night ideas for the single ladies and those in relationships, dating and relationship questions AND the Single Sistah podcast. So if you need to be inspired in the love department be sure to check out my Instagram and Facebook pages!
  • Updated Blog Schedule and Content COMPLETE
    • To ensure that I am posting consistent content for you all on a weekly basis, I have created a blog posting schedule to include:  one minute motivational videos, business/blog/entrepreneur tips, more travel, fashion and beauty blogs, career and finance tips, #WCW Queen Spotlight features and more!
  • Growth and visibility goals for Instagram and YouTube
    • While it’s not all about the numbers, I do have goals to expand my reach on both Instagram and YouTube as I have selected these as my two primary social media platforms for 2018.  Wish me luck!
    • GOAL UPDATE: I have grown my IG account by 200 followers since January 1, 2018!!! My YouTube channel has grown to over 80 followers. Baby steps but I’m loving the progress so far!
  • Miscellaneous
    • Finalize my KnowYourWorth book.  Finalize my Singles book by December 2018. (Decided to change which book I would focus on this year)
    • Create blog business cards.
      • GOAL UPDATE:  I still need to do this! Still haven’t done it yet and it’s like so easy to do smh.

Personal

Some of my personal goals include:

  • Spiritual
    • This year, I want to spending more time with God not only in scripture but in prayer as well.  I’m trying to incorporate daily prayer and devotional time with God as well and I’m tracking my progress.
    • GOAL UPDATE: I have been up and down on my spiritual goal. One thing I know I need to do is incorporate more prayer time and not just devotional time. I’m working on it. 🙂
  • Healthy-ish Lifestyle (don’t judge! haha)
    • I want to work out at least 3-4 times/week and incorporate more vegetarian meals as well, eating at least one vegeterian meal a week!
    • I need to eat more green veggies. Lol. I actually love green veggies, I just don’t cook them as much as I should.  I also will be sharing more healthy-ish recipes with you all on my vlog this year so stay tuned.
    • GOAL UPDATE: So far so good! I have consistently worked out at least 3x/week and have incorporated more green veggies in my diet! I still need to work on incorporating at least one vegetarian meal to my weekly routine and I have some healthy vlogs coming soon.
  • Travel 
    • I have declared my 30th year to be my year of travel. So far I’ve been have to San Francisco and Puerto Rico and have a trip planned to New Orleans and Paris. Don’t worry, I’m taking you all with me and will be blogging/vlogging about those trips as well.
  • Miscellaneous
    • Read more books as well as books/resources to grow my business.
    • Take a fun class. (This year I plan to take a weekly hip hop class. I’ve already started posting some of the videos on my Instagram so head on over to check them out).
    • NEW GOAL: Buy a house by the end of the year! (Yaasss, your girl got real goals!)

What are some of your goals for this year?  What else would you like to see me do on my site this year?  Let’s be sure to pray for one another and keep each other lifted throughout this year!  ~Videllia

Q1’2018 Goals Update

Hey Loves! It’s time for your quarterly goals check in!!! As you all know, every quarter, I take some time to pause and reflect on the goals that I have set for the year. I celebrate the ones I’ve accomplished, add any new ones, remove ones that are no longer relevant to me and evaluate where my progress is on my remaining goals.

As a reminder, here was my theme for this year:

Dream ♥ Hustle ♥ Achieve

So let’s get to it…

Blog Goals

My blog goals include:

  • New Website  COMPLETE
    • As you all can see, I have redesigned my website to make it more user friendly.  Take some time to explore some of its categories like For Every Queen, Lady V speaks and more to find what you like. I’m certain my site has something for every Queen out there.
  • New Products
    • One of my goals last year was to design some statement tee’s for you all and I can finally say that is complete!  I recently launched the first of my new statement tee’s for this year specifically for all of my goal digger Queens.  Grab yours by purchasing here. I plan to release at least 2 more shirts this year so I’m sure you’ll find something for the Queen in you!
    • GOAL UPDATE:  I am releasing my second t-shirt for sell this coming Sunday!!! So I’m making really good progress on this goal!
  • More Videos/Vlogs!
    • The feedback that I received on my videos was very positive in 2017 (even though I had NO intention on ever starting a YouTube channel haha).  But I have been enjoying this journey and realized I love connecting with you all through video so look forward to seeing more frequent videos from me this year. If you haven’t already, be sure to sign up to follow me on YouTube. My goal is to post at least 3 new videos every month (hopefully more!)
    • GOAL UPDATE: I have fallen off of posting new videos. I’ve recorded them but have gotten busy and haven’t edited them. I think my last video was a month ago. I will work on getting back into growing my YouTube channel and posting videos more regularly.
  • More Giveaways!
    • Who doesn’t like receiving free stuff?!!  I plan to host at least 3-4 giveaways this year and they will be bigger and better than last year so stay tuned!  Some giveaways may only be announced on Instagram while some only announced on YouTube so be sure you’re signed up to follow all of my platforms. My first giveaway was posted earlier this month on Instagram.
    • GOAL UPDATE: As of the date of this post, I’ve hosted two giveaways – one in January and one in February. I will be doing another giveaway on April 2nd! To learn more about that giveaway and how you could win, click here!
  • More Collaborations
    • I love collaborating with other bloggers/vloggers.  I’m hoping to do more collaborations this year and would love to do another collab with a vlogger.  I would like to do at least 3 collaborations this year so if interested, hit me up!
    • GOAL UPDATE: I’ve done one collaboration so far with the beautifully talented Keyva Jo Fontnette so I have 2 more to do to reach my target for the year. To see my fashion collaboration with Keyva, click here.
  • More Series
    • Last year I introduced you all to my #KnowYourWorth series in February. I hope to do at least 2 more mini-series this year with you all. My next series is specifically for my single Queens and will be posted next month!
    • GOAL UPDATE: I hosted my single series in February. It was a week long devotional study for my single Queens. As a result of the feedback I have decided to add a new goal specifically with my single queens in mind.
  • SINGLE SISTAH SATURDAYS: NEW GOAL
    • As a result of my series in February, I’ve decided to do a monthly podcast for single Queens. In the podcast we will be talking all about single-lady ish! Please send me what topics you’d like to hear! I’m kicking it off on Monday, April 2nd with a giveaway! Click here to learn more.
  • Updated Blog Schedule and Content COMPLETE
    • To ensure that I am posting consistent content for you all on a weekly basis, I have created a blog posting schedule to include:  one minute motivational videos, business/blog/entrepreneur tips, more travel, fashion and beauty blogs, career and finance tips, #WCW Queen Spotlight features and more!
  • Growth and visibility goals for Instagram and YouTube
    • While it’s not all about the numbers, I do have goals to expand my reach on both Instagram and YouTube as I have selected these as my two primary social media platforms for 2018.  Wish me luck!
    • GOAL UPDATE: I have grown my IG account by 200 followers since January 1, 2018!!! My YouTube channel has grown to over 80 followers. Baby steps but I’m loving the progress so far!
  • Miscellaneous
    • Finalize my KnowYourWorth book.  Finalize my Singles book by December 2018. (Decided to change which book I would focus on this year)
    • Create blog business cards.
      • GOAL UPDATE:  I really need to do this! Still haven’t done it yet.

Personal

Some of my personal goals include:

  • Spiritual
    • This year, I want to spending more time with God not only in scripture but in prayer as well.  I’m trying to incorporate daily prayer and devotional time with God as well and I’m tracking my progress.
    • GOAL UPDATE: I have spent quite a bit more time with God and just recently finished a 7 week bible study with my church group.
  • Healthy-ish Lifestyle (don’t judge! haha)
    • I want to work out at least 3-4 times/week and incorporate more vegetarian meals as well, eating at least one vegeterian meal a week!
    • I need to eat more green veggies. Lol. I actually love green veggies, I just don’t cook them as much as I should.  I also will be sharing more healthy-ish recipes with you all on my vlog this year so stay tuned.
    • GOAL UPDATE: So far so good! I have consistently worked out at least 3x/week and have incorporated more green veggies in my diet! I still need to work on incorporating at least one vegetarian meal to my weekly routine and I have some healthy vlogs coming soon.
  • Travel 
    • I have declared my 30th year to be my year of travel. So far I have trips to Costa Rica coming up along with some smaller trips to San Francisco, Colorado and a few other places. I’m hoping to add a Spain and Jamaica trip as well.  Don’t worry, I’m taking you all with me and will be blogging/vlogging about those trips as well.
  • Miscellaneous
    • Read more books as well as books/resources to grow my business.
    • Take a fun class. (This year I plan to take a weekly hip hop class. I’ve already started posting some of the videos on my Instagram so head on over to check them out).
    • NEW GOAL: Buy a house by the end of the year! (Yaasss, your girl got real goals!)

What are some of your goals for this year?  What else would you like to see me do on my site this year?  Let’s be sure to pray for one another and keep each other lifted throughout this year!  ~Videllia

2018 Planner Setup (My January Spread)

Hey loves it’s Videllia here coming to you with a fun new video for all of my planning and organized Queens. Recently, I have started getting into all things planning, including planner organization and creativity.  So today I’m going to walk through my January 2018 monthly spread for you and why I designed it the way I did. I hope this helps someone else out there who is considering planning and gives you some fun new ideas to get excited about the goals you have to accomplish this year.

Being a Black Woman in Corporate America

I recently attended an accounting conference where the keynote speaker was Ms. Kimberly-Ellison Taylor. Ms. Taylor was named the first African-American chairperson of the AICPA, a very prestigious title. I watched how laughter turned to tears of joy for the crowd as they understood the historical significance of this event.  Blacks used to be seen as less than and now here were are, not only working in prestigious institutions but leading in them as well. It began to remind me of my own career journey.

I am a black woman in corporate America.  Yes, BLACK. As if being a woman is not already enough, I had to be “dipped in chocolate, bronzed in elegance, enabled with grace, toasted with beauty – yes a black woman!” (Dr. Yosef A.A. Ben-Jochannan)

I started my career in corporate America in Fall 2011 and I’ve learned several things that I want to share with other minorities as they begin their own journeys— three of which I’ve listed below.

The stereotype of a black woman precedes me.

In society, women as a whole are considered to be more emotional creatures. But being black on top of that? It’s like a double-edged sword.  Black women are often denoted in society as, well, let’s face it, “crazy.” Inside and outside of our race, we are stereotyped as being loud, boisterous, “ghetto,” etc.  So it’s no surprise that corporate America (sometimes) views us by the same token.

I remember getting upset with some last-minute instructions that my boss gave me a half hour before I was scheduled to leave.  Instead of verbally expressing my anger, I got silent as I tried to calm myself down so as NOT to have an attitude with her. Nonetheless, my boss told me that I had a bad attitude. However, that same boss went around, cursing about her superior (a partner) after the partner made her mad.  Yet she didn’t think she had an attitude?

How I Respond

I’ve learned that positivity is the key factor to ensure that stereotypes don’t precede me.  It’s unfortunate, but since people already see you as emotional (being a woman) and having an attitude (being black), you have to work twice as hard to display a positive image.  For me, this meant that I had to also learn to control my non-verbal reactions so that my mere silence wouldn’t be perceived as threatening.  Is it fair? No. Is it reality? Yes (though not in all situations).  We can’t do much to change corporate America’s preconceived notions but we can ensure that the stereotype stops with us.

My looks play more into my role than some of my non-African American counterparts.

Women are so objectified in society that it comes as no surprise that our looks play a huge role in our professional appearance by others.  But with black women, sometimes, this can be more challenging.

I am a black woman-all the way!  That means on some days I wear my natural hair, other days I opt for a sleek bun, and sometimes I will wear wigs/weaves.

There have been several occasions where my looks have come up in conversation with my non-black coworkers, specifically about my hair. One coworker asked me if she could touch my weave and if I took it off at night; one manager told me she liked my hair much better when I straightened it and my partner told me that I look so professional when I wear my hair in a sleek bun.  And to be honest, these comments greatly affected my confidence in the workplace. I had become insecure about rocking my natural hair for fear of not looking as professional as others.

How I Respond

As black people we are taught to suppress our emotions in order to be respected and not retaliated against.  However, in order to change some stereotypes, we can’t just ignore the ignorance of others – we have to educate them.  And that’s what I have chosen to do at my job.  Instead of being offended and upset, I now try to teach my coworkers the difference between black and non-black hair and why those differences are still acceptable AND are still professional.  We sometimes may be the only black women these people ever see so it is imperative that we do our part to minimize those stereotypes. I’ve had much success by educating my coworkers and I feel it’s created a more welcoming environment for me.

I have to work twice as hard for half the recognition and respect.

This isn’t just true of black women – this is true for most women. Women as a whole, oftentimes, have to work harder than their male counterparts in order to be measured by the same standards of success.  Being dipped in chocolate only means you have to work just that much harder.

No one likes to feel their work is not valued or they aren’t recognized for their successes but sometimes it’s easy to slip through the cracks.  There have been numerous times where credit for things that I’ve done was given to my coworkers and I just sat there and said nothing while my coworkers smiled brightly taking the credit as though they had done the thing all along.

How I Respond

One black partner at my firm told me this, “Videllia, while you’re out here playing checkers, your [non-black] coworkers are playing chess.”  Seeing the puzzled look on my face, he explained to me that I can’t be silent in my career. I’m going to have to actively take charge and make moves so that my skills and career successes are recognized.  I can’t just be basic; I had to learn how to be strategic, always thinking about my next move and that of my opponent (i.e. coworkers) so that I too can have a fighting chance at recognition within my company.

That was probably the best advice that I have ever received in my career. And look at me now.

I am a Manager in my firm at the age of 29.

I am actively involved in our firm’s hiring and recruiting efforts.

I am avidly using my intelligence to teach those in my firm who are ignorant to the black culture about the black culture. I don’t choose to get mad. I choose to educate.

I AM a black woman in corporate America.

~V.Davis

(This blog was first posted by Videllia as a blog contributor on fempotential.com on 12/6/16.)